Author Archives: Harry Estes

Body Image

Sometime last week, I pulled or strained or injured (anyway, something hurts real bad!) on the left side of my stomach. At first I was worried that I might have a hernia. At a doctor’s visit years ago, my physician at the time said that he wouldn’t be surprised if I had a hernia laterContinue reading “Body Image”

The Process of Healing

Lately, I’ve been working on three different writing projects, none of which have to do with sexual abuse. When I started this blog, my focus was on discussing topics that have to do with survivors. But now that I’m veering from that pathway, I might need to talk about subject that don’t necessarily involve topicsContinue reading “The Process of Healing”

Circle of Friendships

Regardless of what kinds of trauma you have experienced, I have found that various groups of friends and levels of intimacy within those groups is really important. I’ve talked about this idea before, but I think that I’ve matured and learned even more about how this concept works. We naturally have these circles of friendsContinue reading “Circle of Friendships”

Journaling

Obviously, if you’ve been on this site, you know that I am a self-published author. I’ve also posted about writing out our survivor stories before, and I want to emphasize this as a process for you as a survivor again. It truly is a valuable way to express your trauma. In addition to therapy, writingContinue reading “Journaling”

Sharing Vulnerability

I was talking with a friend today at the gym, and he mentioned that he had a pretty rough week. Surprisingly, he mentioned to me that some friends had ghosted him recently, and he was trying to navigate that experience because he believed that these friends were trusted people whom he had known for aContinue reading “Sharing Vulnerability”

Emotional Immaturity

For most of my life, I have been an emotionally immature man. I can function well in social situations, I can handle friendships and relationships in a way that is not alarming, and I understand what good emotional health looks like. But I believe, like many survivors, I was stuck emotionally at the age whenContinue reading “Emotional Immaturity”

Moments of Frustration

Nobody enjoys frustration, but we all understand that it is a part of life. I wish that I had a more positive outlook when it comes to the more difficult times of life, but I really don’t. I had some frustrating moments today, and I know that I didn’t handle it in the best wayContinue reading “Moments of Frustration”

Discipline vs Motivation

Many people ask me how I stay motivated to do the things I do, working with a special education population, going to the gym, writing books, etc. I hate to answer this way, but I am rarely motivated to do any of these things consistently. I hope that doesn’t deflate your view of me orContinue reading “Discipline vs Motivation”

Having Difficulties during the Holidays?

Many survivors struggle a lot with the holiday season. Most of the times, the holidays bring memories of past sexual abuse with a family member. The holidays are a constant reminder of those times, even if the sexual abuse hasn’t occurred in many years. For many survivors, even if the holidays don’t bring about sexualContinue reading “Having Difficulties during the Holidays?”