friends – Harry L. Estes

Hanging out and Healing

Last weekend, I got to spend some time with a couple of other survivors. One of them lives out of the state and was here to attend a family function. So, another friend of mine drove to have breakfast and hang out with him for the morning. It was a good time to talk andContinue reading “Hanging out and Healing”

Getting Older…

I turned 53 in July, and I don’t necessarily feel that age. At least, in my head I don’t feel over 50. Of course, I realize that I can’t sprint like I used to when I was in high school. I have difficulty keeping my eyes open when I’m reclining while watching a movie atContinue reading “Getting Older…”

Friendship Struggles Continued…

If you have read some of my other post, you know very well that I have struggled with building and maintain friendships all of my life. Upon some reflection the past few weeks, I believe I’ve had a small breakthrough. And just to start off, I am fully responsible for the position I find myselfContinue reading “Friendship Struggles Continued…”

Circle of Friendships

Regardless of what kinds of trauma you have experienced, I have found that various groups of friends and levels of intimacy within those groups is really important. I’ve talked about this idea before, but I think that I’ve matured and learned even more about how this concept works. We naturally have these circles of friendsContinue reading “Circle of Friendships”

Friendship vs Isolation

I’ve read a few things recently that discuss how difficult it is to develop friendships as a survivor. I believe that everyone struggles with building and maintaining friendships, but I also believe that male survivors have an even more difficult time because of the trust that has been broken in our lives by our perpetrators.Continue reading “Friendship vs Isolation”

Boundaries in Relationship

As a survivor, I struggle a lot with boundaries in relationships. Unfortunately, I believe its common for survivors to have a tough time setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with friendships and other relationships. When I was younger, I was so starved for attention that I had very few boundaries with others. I wanted to haveContinue reading “Boundaries in Relationship”