sexual-abuse – Page 4 – Harry L. Estes

Friendship vs Isolation

I’ve read a few things recently that discuss how difficult it is to develop friendships as a survivor. I believe that everyone struggles with building and maintaining friendships, but I also believe that male survivors have an even more difficult time because of the trust that has been broken in our lives by our perpetrators.Continue reading “Friendship vs Isolation”

Boundaries in Relationship

As a survivor, I struggle a lot with boundaries in relationships. Unfortunately, I believe its common for survivors to have a tough time setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with friendships and other relationships. When I was younger, I was so starved for attention that I had very few boundaries with others. I wanted to haveContinue reading “Boundaries in Relationship”

Turn Your Back and Run

This is a title to a song by Demon Hunter that I absolutely love! To me, it reminds me that I need to draw myself away from sin by running away from it. I’m really good at running, especially from problems, which I don’t think the song is advocating! I know a number of survivorsContinue reading “Turn Your Back and Run”

Dealing with Change

This fall, I will begin my 30th year teaching! So much has changed since I first started, which I’m sure is what happens with any job. But even from year to year, I have to adjust to changes in my routine. And if you know me, I value my routines highly! I’ve enjoyed a fewContinue reading “Dealing with Change”

Bad Days

Yesterday was not a good day for me emotionally. I didn’t get great sleep the night before, which I’m sure had a significant impact on my feelings. On my drive to work, my mind spiraled with negative thoughts about my performance at work, my significance to others regarding friendships and relationships, my workout life, andContinue reading “Bad Days”

Fatherly Approval

I ran across a post recently that talked exactly how my father parented me. He would have been considered part of The Greatest Generation, being born in 1911. He was considerably older than my mom and was 60 years old when I was born. Typical of many men at that time, he considered his greatestContinue reading “Fatherly Approval”