Lately, I’ve been working on three different writing projects, none of which have to do with sexual abuse. When I started this blog, my focus was on discussing topics that have to do with survivors. But now that I’m veering from that pathway, I might need to talk about subject that don’t necessarily involve topics solely devoted to sexual abuse and rape survivors.
So, today I’d like to talk about healing. I’ve discussed this topic before, but I want to revisit it because I feel like I’ve reached a new level of healing in my life. I completely believe, however, that my healing journey is not over, and it will continue until I meet my Lord. Which again is why I refer to this as a process.
There isn’t just one thing that has propelled me on my path. I have to do a lot of reflection when it comes to my life, which also involves a lot of prayer, too. Many situations that involve my irrational thoughts and my behaviors that reflect these thoughts I need to talk about. Processing these things in this way has really helped me see why these thoughts and behaviors are negative and what steps I can take to be more positive and healthier in my life.
Communication has been critical, too. Being able to be vulnerable and talk about things that don’t make sense in my life, or that I’m struggling with has been really helpful in putting some of these irrational thoughts to rest. I also find that I don’t need to communicate about them as much because my brain has now been able to understand and process things in my life in a completely different way, a much healthier way.
Also, I have found that been grateful for the things in my life and the place at which I find myself is hugely important. The attitude has also altered my way of thinking and spurned me on to acting and behaving in a healthier way, too.
My formation is still incomplete and in progress. I still have things to work on, being a better communicator, giving myself more grace and patience, pray more for myself and others, and instilling in my actions more kindness and gratitude. As I continue on this road to recovery, I’m sure that God will uncover even more to work on while also improving on the things that I am developing. For survivors, I hope these thoughts are helpful to you!
Harry L. Estes 